VERIFIED By: Dr Chandni Tugnait, MD (A.M) Psychotherapist, Life Alchemist, Coach & Healer, Founder & Director, Gateway of Healing.
In a marriage, gaslighting often looks silent and completely harmless – however, the actual case is different. Over the years, experts have warned that gaslighting in a marriage is not always visible or obvious. It often takes the form of subtle emotional manipulation that slowly takes away a person’s sense of reality. In many relationships, it begins with small comments, dismissals, or contradictions that seem harmless in the moment. Over time, these behaviours create deep confusion, self-doubt, and emotional dependence. What makes gaslighting especially harmful is that it affects the victim’s ability to trust their own perceptions. They begin to question their memory, their feelings, and eventually their entire identity within the marriage.
Common Signs And Symptoms of Gaslighting In Marriage
In Indian households in particular, where emotional dynamics can be layered with cultural expectations, family interference, and long-standing ideas of gender roles, gaslighting often goes unnoticed or is brushed aside as “normal behaviour.” Instead of identifying the emotional harm, victims are often encouraged to stay quiet, adjust, or compromise. This silence allows gaslighting to grow stronger and more damaging. So what is the first step that needs to be taken – lookout for the signs and signals and understand what it actually looks like. Scroll down to know more about it. Here are some insights on symptoms and how to know if you are a victim of gaslighting–Constantly Being Told You Are Overreacting
Gaslighters often dismiss their partner’s feelings by calling them dramatic or too emotional. However, when someone tells you constantly that your reactions are too much or you are overreacting, you actually start to believe your emotional responses are invalid. This creates a sense of confusion and eventually makes you feel you are dependent on your partner to interpret a particular situation – as you cannot handle it on your own.Frequent Denial of Facts, Even When You Have Proof
A classic sign of gaslighting is when the partner denies things they clearly said or did. They may insist a conversation never happened, claim you misheard them, or flip the narrative entirely.When this happens repeatedly, you start doubting your memory and second-guessing your own mind.Twist of Events That Make Everything Your Fault
In marriages affected by gaslighting, conflict rarely ends with accountability. Instead, the victim is blamed for causing problems, misinterpreting actions, or being difficult. The gaslighter shifts blame so smoothly that the victim begins apologising for things they did not do.Feeling Confused And Drained After Conversations
Gaslighting often leaves the victim feeling mentally exhausted.Conversations do not bring clarity; they create more doubt. You may walk away feeling guilty, confused, or unsettled, even though you approached the issue calmly. When communication consistently leaves you questioning yourself, emotional manipulation is often present.Isolation From Friends or Family
One of the main target of the gaslighters is to slowly discourage or criticise the victim’s support system – leaving the victim fighting the odds all alone. These people can make the victim believe that their friends are their enemies – the influence of the gaslighters is this bad! The more isolated the victim becomes, the easier it is for the gaslighter to control the narrative.Apologising Excessively Even When You Are Not Wrong
Victims often start apologising simply to keep the peace, not because they made a mistake. They feel responsible for their partner’s moods or reactions. Over time, this turns into a belief that they must be the problem in the marriage.Losing Confidence In Your Own Decisions
One of the deepest impacts of gaslighting is the diminishing of self-trust. The victim begins to feel incapable of making choices without reassurance from their partner. This dependency further strengthens the gaslighter’s control.Feeling Like You Are Walking On Eggshells
How to know if you are a victim of gaslighting? Experts say that when you start to constantly monitor your tone, words, or actions just to avoid triggering conflict, it is likely possible that you are a victim of emotional manipulation (someone has manipulated you to feel this way). Healthy marriages do not require you to shrink yourself to maintain harmony.Gaslighting In Married Life: How To Handle This Emotional Abuse?
Gaslighting can be deeply damaging because it attacks a person’s emotional foundation. Recognising the signs is the first step toward reclaiming your clarity and confidence. No one deserves to feel confused, belittled, or afraid in their marriage. Understanding these patterns helps individuals seek support, set boundaries, and rebuild a sense of self that is grounded in truth rather than manipulation.The articles, news features, interviews, quotes, and media content displayed on this page are the property of their respective publishers and media houses. All such materials have been sourced from publicly available online platforms where our name, views, or contributions have been referenced, quoted, or featured.
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