Ghosting no more

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Tinder shares tricky treats recommended by expert

In today’s modern dating age, where authenticity and respect are at the core,
young singles have no tolerance for dating games. the dating app’s own internal
data** reveals that 18-25 year olds are 32 percent less likely to ghost someone
than 33+ year olds.

While ghosting might seem like the easy way out in certain instances, there are
much better ways to end a relationship, no matter how long you have been
dating. It partnered with Dr. Chandni Tugnait, Life coach and relationship expert,
to remind users of five important tips to avoid ghosting. Keep this checklist in
mind to ensure that you’re a healthy dater.

Have honest conversations

When your match consistently lacks initiative in either starting or actively
continuing conversation, it could seem like a potential red flag, as would someone
who just won’t stop talking despite your disinterest. Rather than vanishing like a
ghost, take a step back with kindness. Give direct feedback and resist the urge to
continue a meaningless conversation. If the spell still doesn’t break, know that
some situations call for an eventual unmatch.

Be clear with your feelings and intentions

There’s no rush to jump into anything you’re not ready for. Making your feelings
clear from the beginning is always helpful. Be transparent and outline your
intentions from the outset, ensuring you’re on the same page. You can use
Tinder’s Relationship Goals to clearly indicate what you’re looking for. This gives
you more control over your interactions and allows you to match with more
intention.

Respect boundaries

The most important dating rule, be it online or IRL, is to establish clear boundaries
on both sides and respect them. Everyone should feel safe in asserting their
boundaries, and consent is fundamental in all dating situations. Decoding whether
or not you have someone’s consent in an online setting isn’t always that
straightforward. As a broad rule of thumb, always seek clear consent by openly
discussing new steps in your online connection with direct questions.

Be considerate

Be upfront but be mindful not to ask intrusive or uncomfortable questions. If
you’ve received an inappropriate message or experienced bad behavior such as
discriminatory slurs, derogatory language, hate speech, or harassment, speak up.
Tinder’s Does This Bother You? asks users this question when they receive a
potentially offensive message on the app. When someone responds ‘yes’ to this prompt, they have the option to report the sender for their behaviour. Similarly, Tinder’s Are You Sure? feature helps detect any language in messages that you’re about to send that might be deemed inappropriate. Pause and think about
how the other person will receive your question/message. If you have any doubts
— don’t send it.

Stay alert – if it feels too good to be true, it probably is

If someone you’re chatting with online avoids video conversations, requests
money for unusual reasons, or consistently offers excuses for not meeting in
person, be cautious. To address these concerns, use features like Tinder’s in-app
video calling or Photo Verification to get to know the person better and help
confirm that they are the person in their profile.